Protecting the Institution of Marriage

One of Andrew Sullivan's readers writes:

Amy Jenniges lives with her girlfriend, Sonia, and I live with my boyfriend, Terry. Last Friday I accompanied Amy and Sonia to room 403, the licensing division, at the King County Administration Building. When Amy and Sonia asked the clerk for a marriage license, the clerk turned white. You could see, "Oh my God, the gay activists are here!" running through her head. County clerks in the marriage license office had been warned to expect gay couples sooner or later, but I guess this particular clerk didn't expect us to show up five minutes before closing on Friday.

The clerk called over her manager, a nice older white man, who explained that Amy and Sonia couldn't have a marriage license. So I asked if Amy and I could have one--even though I'm gay and live with my boyfriend, and Amy's a lesbian and lives with her girlfriend. We emphasized to the clerk and her manager that Amy and I don't live together, we don't love each other, we don't plan to have kids together, and we're going to go on living and sleeping with our same-sex partners after we get married. So could we still get a marriage license?

"Sure," the license-department manager said, "If you've got $54, you can have a marriage license." ... It's not the marriage license I'd like to have, of course. But, still, let me count my blessings: I have a 10-year relationship (but not the marriage license), a house (but not the marriage license), a kid (but not the marriage license), and my boyfriend's credit-card bills (but not the marriage license). I don't know what a guy has to do around here to get the marriage license. But I guess it's some consolation that I can get a meaningless one anytime I like, just so long as I bring along a woman I don't love and my $54.

It gives me warm, fuzzy feelings knowing that the institution of marriage is protected from those who would try to weaken it.

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I have to agree with Josh.

I have to agree with Josh. If you were told that you couldn't marry the "woman of your dreams," you would be ready to take on the world and argue for change. But I have another question... What exactly is it that will become so "weakened" if gays and lesbians are allowed to marry? Who will it hurt exactly? I hear these arguments all the time and yet no has their own thoughts about the subject. The answer is always the same--"God said it's not right!" When is the last time you had a long conversation with God, over tea and crumpets, where he told you "This is what I said and this is what I mean?" Well the next time you do, tell him (sorry, Him) that I would like to talk with him as well.